One way to understand how to improve our interpersonal communication is to think of interpersonal communication as a reflection of intra-personal communication. In other words, if I can feel comfortable and at ease with myself, then when I’m talking to someone else, no matter who it is, I can feel comfortable and at ease, and thereby I unconsciously invite the other person to join me in a state of feeling relaxed, comfortable, and peaceful.
One of the easiest ways to affect change in our interpersonal communication is to learn how to relax and be at ease around others. So, when I work with people, I help them practice being relaxed while we are talking together. Next, I ask them to imagine being at ease when they are speaking to other people, and then to go out and practice. Finally, we fine tune and adjust. With practice, it is possible for anyone to learn how to communicate in a way that feels really comfortable and enjoyable.